Turning Twenty One | Shop The Look

 If you haven’t heard already from the multitude of posts on my instagram story and on my feed – i’ve just turned twenty one! In this post I’ll be sharing the details of my outfit with you and also giving you my thoughts about reaching this milestone.

The best part about celebrating a birthday to me is spending time with your friends and family. I couldn’t care less about the presents – for me its about the quality time spent. That being said, I’ve never been a huge fan of birthdays. To me it is just a reminder of how fast time is passing which leads me to think about all the things I haven’t achieved yet. It hit me this year that I’m actually a fully grown, fully functioning adult. I have responsibilities, goals and plans for the future which nobody is going to achieve for me. I realised, it’s time for me to step my game up and work harder. I’ve spent too much of my life letting the time pass me by, always thinking that I have bags of time left to achieve what I want to achieve, always believing that things will sort themselves out.

The truth is, the only person that can control the things that happen in your life is you – nobody else can do it for you. Bad things may happen that are out of our control, but what we are able to control is the way we handle it – we can let it break us or we can use it to get stronger and more determined.

Every laugh shared, every drink sipped and every picture taken just has a special sort of monumental feel to it! Being twenty one isn’t like any other birthday. This marks the beginning, a change and a new order – it’s like all my New Years at once.

This is the real deal and I’m going to make this year count.

I feel like I’m finally making the switch from a teenager to a confident adult.

2018 has already been amazing and I accomplished the biggest goal in my life that I’d had since before I can even remember – which was to become a Mother. Nothing in my life will ever compare to that moment and I’m so glad that I have a little tiny person that can motivate me every single day to be the best person I can be for him, and for me too.

Life is all about finding what motivates you and what makes you happy. You could be in a job that pays hundreds of thousands a year but if it doesn’t make you happy then what’s the point? Why live miserably? The same applies with friendship groups, I’d sooner have one good and valuable friend that has my best interests at heart and who I can laugh with, than twenty friends that I’m not really that close with.

One theme applies this year which is quality over quantity because this can be applied to just about every single aspect of life no matter of the stage you’re at or what you’re doing right now.

Your twenties are a strange time in life where everyone is at such different stages and life changes dramatically over such a short period of time. There are some people who are still stuck in childhood, some of your friends may own their own homes or have their own families. Some people are all about the party and some are just simply lost and trying to find their place in the world. The truth is that no matter where you are – it’s okay. Your twenties are a time where you can figure all of this out. You’re still young enough where there’s time for a complete revamp of your life if you’re not happy. It’s a time where we will grow up but we will still keep in touch with our youth. Afterall, twenty one is stereotypically the age of partying and gambling, expecially in the USA.

Cobalt desires: SHOP MY OUTFIT

Playsuit: Pretty Little Thing SHOP

Shoes: Raid, Asos SHOP

Bag: Whistles SHOP

I filmed my first ever proper vlog for my 21st birthday weekend which I’ve posted on my channel. You can watch that here. I’ve been super nervous about posting this so any feedback and support would mean the absolute world to me!

Here’s to twenty one!




  1. Kayla Arnold March 7, 2018 / 05:24

    Happy Birthday!! Looks like you had an incredible time! x

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 05:26

      Thanks so much! It was amazing x

  2. Courtney March 7, 2018 / 05:50

    Happy belated 21st birthday!! You have a child?! Your body seems to have completely bounced back, which from what I hear, isn’t always easy. You are so right about the realization that we are actually adults now. I’m 20 and every time I tell people my age, I feel like its almost an outer body experience. It just seems so unreal sometimes! Loved your vlog! xx

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 05:55

      Thankyou! Awww thanks so much I’m very lucky I know because he’s only 8 weeks! I agree it’s like I’m not talking about me, glad I’m not the only one haha. Thanks angel xxxxx

  3. Shahnaz March 7, 2018 / 09:15

    Happy Birthday baby girl and hi 5. It’s not about presents its who you spend time with and enjoy your time with x xxx u look fab

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 09:48

      Thank you so much gorgeous!!!! Xxxxx

  4. Carly Thompson March 7, 2018 / 13:16

    Happy belated birthday! Hope you had a great time. You look stunning, and your outfit is amazing, you really suit it! I’m glad you’re feeling like a confident adult, I found it hard switching from a teenager to an adult, but you’re as young as you feel!

    Carly xx

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 14:23

      Thank you so much you’re so kind! Xxx

  5. Antonia March 7, 2018 / 14:11

    Happy Birthday!
    I really love what you wrote about friend groups and quality over quantity, I feel like it´s so easy to forget that being treated badly is not okay nowadays with social media ruling over basically everything.
    Have a great day 🙂

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 14:24

      Thankyou so much! Just remember that you set your own bar in life 😘

  6. Kelly March 7, 2018 / 14:31

    Happy birthday!!!
    Great outfit too!!

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 15:42


  7. kris March 7, 2018 / 15:22

    Happy birthday, you look absolutely stunning!!

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 15:42

      Thank you so much!

  8. Erika March 7, 2018 / 17:10

    You look absolutely beautiful in these photos! 21 is such a special time but you are absolutely right. I totally agree about quality over quantity.

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 17:23

      Thankyou so much!!!!!

  9. Huda March 7, 2018 / 20:47

    I loved reading this post! Birthdays really can be eye opening sometimes in terms of all that you need to achieve! Also, you have a child?! That is amazing, I’m glad I learnt something new from this post that I didn’t know before haha! Hope you have the best year and accomplish all your goals! 💗😘

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 7, 2018 / 22:12

      Thankyou! Yeah he’s two months old 🙂 thank you so much you too xxx

  10. Sian March 8, 2018 / 20:16

    Happy Birthday and Congratulations on your first Vlog!! 🙂

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 8, 2018 / 20:20

      Thanks so much!

  11. Hebah March 8, 2018 / 20:31

    Gorgeous photos! Hope you had an absolutely brilliant time. x

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 8, 2018 / 21:23

      Thanks so much! It was great x

  12. Keziah March 8, 2018 / 21:03

    This is just the beginning. Thank you for sharing and Happy Birthday!

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 8, 2018 / 21:22

      Thank you xxxx

  13. Sonam March 8, 2018 / 22:58

    Sounds like you had an amazing 21st hun ❤️ I felt the same way too, for my 21st I started to think more about the way that I spend my time xx

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 8, 2018 / 23:00

      Thankyou! Yeah it’s so important but I’m trying not to get tooooooo caught up in it haha xxx

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 11, 2018 / 22:07

      Thank you xxxx

  14. Davis March 16, 2018 / 21:06

    I hope you had an amazing birthday! You definitely seem so much more in control of your s*** than I were at 21, I wish I’d have been more motivated like you sound! Then again I suppose being a Mother helps a LOT with that, when I turned 21 I definitely thought I had all the time in the world still, or at least for that year, but one year turned into another and so on, so I’m only just starting to get myself sorted out now that I actually have a child! I so wish I’d have pulled myself together sooner, I’ve wasted so many years already just doing nothing!

    Congrats too on motherhood by the way! It’s the most amazing thing, isn’t it? I do love finding fellow Mommy bloggers! P.S, your outfit is absolute perfection, definitely off to check out that playsuit – you look gorgeous! x

    • nudepinkorblack
      March 16, 2018 / 21:09

      Omg you’re so kind you’ve made my day, seriously! Yeah I think before Leo I thought that I was invincible haha! Thank you so much, it’s the greatest thing ever!

      Thank you so so so much xxxxxxx

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